Continuing my “series” on marriage, I finish with the last part of the essay I wrote before my husband and I married, ten years ago…
Redemption for the Marriage As Well As the Soul
After Jesus’ ministry on Earth, many examples became evident for a new way of life. Christ had demonstrated his love for the church and explained how the church was to respond to God and then he compared it to marriage. God inspired many men to explain these to us so that we might know how to have a marriage more like the marriage between the church and God.
Christ called the church his bride, and loved her so much that he sacrificed himself to save her. The husband also is called to love his wife and it may at times be necessary to sacrifice his own needs or desires to fulfill the needs of his wife. For example, this could be as simple as turning off his favorite tv show and comforting his wife because she is upset. This may also mean going to a concert or a play that he really doesn’t care about but that the wife really wants to see. The husband may not ever be called to sacrifice his life for his wife, but it is important that the wife feels loved, secure, comforted, and happy and occasionally a small sacrifice may need to be made to provide that for her. (Ephesians 5:25, Ephesians 5:28-29)
Christ also called the husbands to be the head of the wife as he is the head of the church. Christ is the authority that the church places themselves under. He is a “servant leader” where servanthood defines this leadership rather than working against it. (Woman’s Study Bible, p.5) The husband is to be a leader for the wife to follow, at the same time, serving her to meet her needs so they can move forward together in an orderly, Christ-like manner. (Ephesians 5:23-29)
The wife is called to be submissive to her husband as the church is subject to the Lord. This could mean that the wife is responsible to her husband as well as the Lord, since it’s his job to move the family closer to God. If the wife is pulling the family away from God, she may be responsible to the husband for her actions. This doe not alter the fact that she is also responsible to the Lord for her actions, or the fact that the husband is responsible to the Lord for both of their actions. (Genesis 3)
Okay, so the funniest line of this part: “so they can move forward together in an orderly, Christ-like manner.” Yeah, I crack myself up.
I really think this was a rough draft, and that I finished this on the computer. I don’t know if there was more to this or not – this is where the hand-written version ends. If I was writing this now, I’d not only edit a few things, I’d add some more too, it, too. Perhaps that is ten years marriage talking. 😉
Next time, the 30 year old me finishes where the 19 year old me left off.